Amber Rose writes an essay on slut-shaming and sexism

How I Learned To Stop Caring What People Think

Published on 29 January 2016

 Amber Rose shot by Millicent Hailes

Amber Rose shot by Millicent Hailes

"There may have been a time where you looked back and said, 'I probably shouldn't have done that.' Does that make you a ho? No, it makes you a human."

Amber Rose has a whole lotta personality, she's also openly into sex — two qualities that apparently make her problematic as a woman. Rose gets a seriously bad deal in the press. After having her personal life put on blast on the reg, Amber has hit back by writing an essay on slut shaming for TIME. Now, in a new essay titled “How I Learned To Stop Caring What People Think”, Rose discusses the subject even further – opening up about her experiences with sexism, and her struggles with its unjust double standards.

“After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people would say, ‘Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants with guys.’ Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say, ‘He’s the man! That’s so cool.’ So when I went on a date, I’m a whore, and when he’s piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something wrong here.”

Her solid advice for getting over these dumb social standards is: just stop caring.

"Ever since high school, I've been called a slut."

 via Instagram / @amberrose

via Instagram / @amberrose

"What I've realised is that, when you care too much, you're not living at your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say, that's when you really start living. It's such an amazing feeling. It's about loving who you are, owning who you are and knowing that it's OK to live your life how you want to live it."

Read the full essay here.